There are key areas where your husband/boyfriend need respect are ;
1. RESPECT HIS OPINIONS / JUDGMENT :
Nothing disturbs a man like when his supposed help mate doubts his opinions or judgment. Men were designed to be leaders and leaders want to be trusted to be doing the right things or making the right decisions. When I first got married this was one of places I struggled the most with my husband.
Whenever a situation arose, regardless of whatever he came up with, I always had a another and in my mind's eye a better way of handling the situation. I'm sure a lot of women can relate with what I'm talking about
Every time you try to run your husband over with your opinions without giving his a chance to take flight, you're most certainly dis-respecting him.
I have learnt over the years that it's best you allow him make decisions and if he makes a mistake let him learn from them. I'm not asking you to play dumb and not have an opinion on certain issues; but you must learn to present them in an advisory form. Not try to impose them.
2. RESPECT HIS ABILITIES :
A man often gets his achievements from what he is able to conquer. Men want to attempt and conquer. Don't tell him what he can or can't do even before he tries. It tears down his morals and of course is disrespectful to his person. Have you ever noticed how most men love to get down to that instruction manual? They would sit @ it for hours until they figure it out.
It's how they are hard wired and it makes them feel better about themselves.
A perfect example of this is when a man is driving to place he hasn't been before. After a few minutes of going round with probably little achievements, the average woman itching to ask people along the road for directions
Before now I used to think it's the egotistical part of man that makes them act that way; but now I understand that it's beyond their ego. Its a quest to achieve something and they get affirmations once they are successful.
This seemingly little drama of the man is very important to them and it needs to be respected. All they are asking of you a a wife is to believe in them and what they can do.
3. RESPECT IN COMMUNICATION : Women are born communicators. We are very expressive and we don't hesitate to say it all. While this is all natural, we must learn to tone it down a notch when relating with our husbands. Often times when your husband feels disrespected by your words, it more of how it is said than what is said. When we speak without being cautious, sometimes men here disappointment, attacks on their personality ; making them go on the defensive
In general the place of respect for a man can never be overemphasized. It's critical for your marriage / relationship because once a man feel respected he automatically feels loved. While for a woman, once she feels loved she feels respected. We often tend to love others the way we want to be loved. Its high time we started understanding the men we said I Do to or we're about to say I Do to
